Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Friends and Friendships

Preethi's post about friends set me thinking again about friends and friendships. She has mentioned about different kinds - ones you can't live without, ones you can live without and the ones whom you should live without.

What happens when a friend whom you thought is for life, one day turns out to be someone you should avoid?

I have noticed that as you grow old, you just don't feel like taking that extra effort to make and maintain friendships. If you find someone whom you like, good for you. If you find someone who is on the same wavelength, better still. And if you find someone as crazy or even crazier than you, it is nothing short of a lottery.

She was someone like that. We gauged each other intially, made some small talk for days. Both of us do not remember when we actually started hitting it off. She could find a joke in anything or anyone. I was like the sister she never had, or so she claimed. For me she was a gift straight from God in a new place and through some of the most difficult times in my life. Even after moving to another place, we called each other to talk about the silliest of and the most serious of things. I have discussed things in my life with her which I've never told anyone before or after.

One day, I get to know just by chance, that behind my back, she is someone else. And she betrayed my faith in the cruelest of ways.

It's been more than two years now, I have not been able to talk about it with anyone and I still cannot. While going through the contact list on my phone, I have thought about deleting her name many times, but always decided against. Probably because the good times we have spent with each other were too many. Did it yesterday, finally.


  1. The best way to deal with someone who is not truthful to you is to Shift + Delete that person from you life :-)

  2. I'm sorry....I do feel for U:-(

    Happens to all of us at 1 point or the other & it gets harder to forgive as we grow older.

    And abt the deleting bit...i'm the worse. I cant even bear to delete a number of a friend who passed away.

  3. Its sad that we have to go through phases like that. Same thing happened to me, with a very very close friend of many years. Am still shocked and am trying to get around the forgivness bit. The funny thing is I still miss her and I feel bad that she is no longer a part of my life. I keep hoping for it to be a bad dream... Guess its only human. Anyways don't be to hard on yourself, there are many more, who are always by you.